By Medha Sridhar
“Dear Wise Owl,
I recently went on a Super fun trip with my family and friends. I recently came back from it. I feel the vacation was super short as it was only 3 days long. It’s been really hard to get over it. I really miss the place because it was really fun. It all feels so boring and lonely now. What do you think I should do?
Sincerely,
Sad and lonely”
Dear Sad and Lonely,
It can sometimes be super hard to focus and come back after having such fun time. I have dealt with it myself. But we all have work to do once we come back home. And I can tell you, that isn’t going to be the last time you go on a trip. But you will eventually get used to it. And soon, you will feel okay and back on your feet soon. That time is close by!
“Dear Wise Owl,
Lately, when I’ve been hanging out with my best friend, she keeps inviting another person, and I feel like a third wheel when we all are together. I don’t know what to do. I am too scared to tell my best friend because I think she will stop being my friend. Please help!
Sincerely,
Depressed.
Dear Depressed,
It can be very hurtful and can be a very hard time when that happens. It’s not fun. It feels as if you don’t deserve to have friends. But thats not true. Even if you are not perfect, you absolutely have no reason to make yourself think that you are not a good friend. Believe me, it’s happened to me too. A LOT. The first step to this type of problem is to stop criticizing yourself as a person; you may not be perfect but no one is! The next step is to confront the friend; they may not know that you are feeling that way, and might understand, help, and make sure that they treat you how you as a person deserve to be treated. That’s usually where everything goes back to normal. But sometimes, it’s not. And that’s where the third step comes in; for example, if they still don’t treat you well and like a friend, they may not even want to be your friend. And that’s totally okay! They might be a fake friend, but it’s really important that you don’t change the way you are for others. Sometimes, people are just “passing clouds,” but you will find your Sun soon. So don’t be different for others; they might have hurt you and it might be time to move on. It can be hard to accept that, but you will for sure find new friends who do appreciate you for who you are. And that’s a true friend!
Sincerely,
The Wise Owl.
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